Male Bonding and Masturbation

The Bond... as men

I was invited to write a blog for a male masturbation blog site, about male bonding and masturbation.  This is what I submitted:

All men who hang together should cum together.  It's about the bond... as men. 

That's been my motto throughout my life from the time my penis began to grow and form into an extension of my masculine and sexual self.  The first feelings that I needed to bond with another male's dick started before puberty, when I saw for the first time older boy's fully developed cocks and they astounded me.  The size, the weight, the mass, the bush... the very presence of it in front of me was commanding of my attention and it stirred things inside of me I didn't understand.  I just knew I wanted to be near it.  This need to bond was much more deeply instilled in me as a pubescent teen, when a friend was brave and horny enough to expose himself and share his knowledge and curiosity about sex, masturbation, and the new-found physical capabilities of his big and beautiful cock.  That was a life changing and reaffirming event between two males which reassured what I was discovering about my body wasn't something I was experiencing alone.  It led to additional bonding experiences with other friends who also felt that need to share in their masturbatory habits and techniques, and to experience the ultimate level of male bonding.  [read about them in detail here:  Bi-Top Married Dad, The Early Years… Brazen’s Beginnings]

Men need to bond.  To group together around something mutually satisfying.  That bond can take many forms in the sports we gather together to watch, the teams we play on, working out together, and in the general need to compete, compare, and challenge each other's abilities.  It adheres us together.  That bond is solidified most strongly when men can expose our cocks, gain validation and acceptance on what we have between our legs, and engage in the act of making ourselves hard and shooting cum in front of each other.   Take it from me, slapping freshly cum-drained cocks together is the ultimate 'high five' between buds.  There is such power and strength in the bonding that occurs between masturbating men.  It is undeniable.

As I've grown older, the need to bond at that level never faded.  The opportunities may have faded, but the primal need will always exist.  I feel this is the same for so many of us.  We know.  There is a shared and often silent understanding that many men feel, and I think should exist among all male friends and family members.  A man's hardness and ejaculation should be as familiar to the other males in his life as what his favorite sports team is, his favorite band, favorite beer, or favorite car.  I read this in an article once, that our need to expose ourselves to each other is similar to 'popping the hood' to show off the engine in our muscle cars.  In my opinion, the men who have not had this occur in their lives, could be easily inspired into doing so.  Most guys who are willing to watch porn together are but a tiny step away from shifting that focus to their own bodies and whipping it out.  They are so rocked up and turned on that the opportunity to take it out and 'scratch that itch' won't be refused.  We're men.  No more need be said.

Not just the result from a spur-of-the-moment adrenalized impulse, there is more to this bond: 

A bit of camaraderie and the closeness experienced through shared testosterone.  Testosterone and adrenaline... that which makes us primal masculine beings put on display in its most basic form.  Our masculine energy and essence being traded among each other being given out as well as received.  That sense of connection to a man's most basic need.  To cum.  We all have it, so why should it be kept a private matter hidden away from other men?  We're all dudes.  We all do it.  It feels great.  All reasons to do it together.

A degree of healthy competition, mixed with a measure of vulnerability - the need to be accepted and revered by others.  Most importantly to receive that acceptance from those who own what we own, understand what we understand, and can relate to both the physicality and mindset and what it means to be a man!  Each man showing the other what they have... the penis they have been given by nature as well as the muscle and shape they have achieved through hard work.  Celebrate the fact that we are men!  Here is my dick.  This is how I masturbate it for maximum pleasure.  Show me how you masturbate yours.

Personally speaking, nothing beats the bond two men can have; physically, emotionally, or spiritually. It’s something I hold very close to my soul in terms of need, and desire.  If you've bonded this way with friends or family members already, then you KNOW.  If you're curious, I can tell you this. It’s everything you think it will be, and more.  I fucking love being naked around other men.  It doesn't have to be about something sexual, just the bond of being naked is amazing.  Truthfully, how much more awesome would it be if you were hanging out with your buddies in the front of the TV with the football game on and everyone was naked?  I call bullshit to anyone who just read that and rejected it as something they would never do.  Once you're beyond the shyness, and get over the initial 'thing' of being naked in front of your buddies... it will become amazing.  After a beer or two, there will be a level of intimate cohesion combined with the masculine companionship.  And I wouldn't be surprised if the kind of wagers being made on the game would include something to do with jerking off.  Next to fucking, jerking off is the peak of man being able to prove himself sexually and is the inevitable challenge on a betting man's dare.  The show of aggression, prowess, and shocking display cannot be disputed.  We're men, and no matter how high or low our level of 'gruffness' is our warrior spirit will surface.  'Watch what I can do, fellas.'

I love this adrenalized intimacy with men.  I love the aggression, the limitless passion, the sweat, and the physical force that two men can bring to each other. I love the strength, the power, the hardness, the masculine scent, and the sight and sound of a man when he’s cumming.  There is so much powerful energy generated when reaching that place of primal orgasmic pleasure from deep inside, and having it happen in front of like-minded men who understand and truly celebrate that feeling with you.  Men who will congratulate your accomplishment with cheers and amazement as your cum is shooting out of your exploding cock.  And they will be so incensed to want to show you what their cock can do too.  Cum one... cum ALL!

Yet with the aggression and adrenaline - power and strength... there is mutual caring and bonding at the same time. It’s not about dominance, or 'winning’. It’s about mutually pleasing and showing each other that power can equally exist with tenderness. It’s a feeling that cannot be matched with women.

And as men, we have the ability to pass that understanding on to others.  Friends who can introduce this to friends, family members such as cousins or older brothers who can mentor their younger relatives, or as our fathers may have shown us, we can show our sons.  I do not have sons of my own, but if I did I would want them to grow up in a wide open atmosphere where they wouldn’t have to hide anything about who they are, who they are attracted to, or what their bodies look like.  I would want him (them) to feel comfortable being naked, have a good and confident self image, be comfortable talking with me about their bodies as they develop from boys into men, comfortable to follow their desires and make discoveries about their bodies.  They would be taught that the growth of their penis and its brand new ability to shoot hot cum is a rite of passage for a young man.  We'd be celebrating its arrival, and he'd be encouraged and coached to shoot as much of it as he can.  For a Father and Son… I can’t imagine a closer moment to have between the two.

For a Father and Son... I can't imagine a closer moment to have between the two

I would never want him (them) to feel like they have to hide their porn stash or keep secrets about what they feel inside.  And if that means they happen to get a hard on while sitting naked on the couch while we’re all watching TV, FINE!  That’s what men get!  If they see Dad with an erection, FINE!  It’s okay!  And masturbating is okay too.  If you want dad to show you how, I'll be happy to bond with my son that way.  Further, if they are hanging with their buds one day jerking off to porn together, or experimenting with something sexual and I walk in on it… SO WHAT!  My son would have probably told them how cool their dad is with all of it, and his friends wouldn't need to feel embarrassed or like they were about to get in a boat-load of trouble.  I would much rather be able to talk with them about it rather than it being hidden from me.  If they are underage, I would certainly advise them to hold off until they are a bit older and can handle it more maturely, and if they are over 18 then… GO FOR IT!  I could care less if my living room became the buddy jack off place to hang out naked and stroke it (just no cum on the couch, carpet, walls, or mirrors boys).  Let them enjoy themselves! I find that a much healthier and natural activity than drinking, doing drugs, or committing crimes just to keep from being bored.

I would most definitely talk with their fathers as well, as this should not be kept from them.  And if the conversation goes as I expect it would, I would imagine I would be gaining a new masturbation buddy myself.  Perhaps it could be something our sons and us could do together.  The ultimate of the ultimate bond.

Group masturbation does not need to be a hands-on-your-own activity.  Depending on your level of curiosity, desire, daring... it's okay to wrap that fist around a buddy's shaft and 'feel the steel'.  If you're worried about keeping your Straight Man card... fear not.  Letting your friend take care of your need and returning the favor isn't gay.  It's bro-bonding.  To the bi-sexual and gay population it's just normal contact with a horny friend.  Regardless of your orientation, let me make this clear... fucking a bud's fist until you're blowing your load feels fucking incredible.  Don't deny yourself that pleasure.  Embrace it and enjoy it.

As men need to bond, so do our cocks.  Jerking off along with your buddies and the bond it creates is amazing.  That bond is centered through our masculinity our testosterone and our libido.  All of it surges through our cocks and while many of us can increase that bond with stroking each other off, it can be even more maximized by letting our cocks become as good of friends as we are.  Gliding cock on cock sends jolts of electricity through our shafts and directly to our nuts.  The sensation is unreal.  You're just as manly and self-assured in your sexuality when you can have your cock meet your friend's cock directly.  Head-on, shaft to shaft.  I'd go as far to say your confidence in your heterosexual status would be solidified when you can bond with the males in your life like this.

We are men.  Let's be men.. together.

 

 

So... What do you think?  I welcome your comments.